Self-pleasure is a self-soothing behaviour that calms down your mind, gets you in touch with your body and releases a bunch of hormones that help you lead a balanced life. Most people have a routine in place for achieving orgasm while masturbating. And while there’s nothing wrong with knowing what you like and what turns you on, trying new techniques, switching things up completely can be a fun adventure.
Single or in a relationship, seasoned or new to the self-love scene, there are plenty of ways to up your masturbation game. And it truly is something you should be making time for. Not only are orgasms good for you, they’re an ideal way to focus on yourself for a little while and forget the world. Experimenting on your own will empower you to be more adventurous in the bedroom and have a better idea of exactly what works for you, so you know what to ask for.
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10 Ways To Shake Things Up During Self-Pleasure Sesh
1. Try A New Toy
Have a great vibrator that gets you off everytime? Time to switch things up and invest in a new masturbation buddy. Stimulate those often neglected erogenous zones and take your masturbation to the next level with a new sex toy. From nipple toys to wand massagers, there are several innovations in the world of sexual toys. And if you haven’t yet been invited to this wonderful and sensual world, start with a bullet vibrator and work your way up.
2. Mix Up Your Position
Do you find yourself laying down on the bed every time you masturbate? You now know one thing that needs to be changed – your position. Yes, you know that one position that gives you consistent orgasms. But how about getting out of predictability and surprising your body? If you’re usually flat on your back when masturbating, try doing it standing up, turning onto your stomach, or spreading your legs further apart and then closer together. Every new position allows you to reach orgasm in a different way and may provide you with new sensations to choose from.
3. Practise Edging
Edging (also called surfing, peaking, teasing, and more) is the practice of stopping yourself from reaching orgasm right when you’re on the cusp — the metaphorical “edge” right before you fall off the cliff into sexual climax. Actively distracting the mind is a technique you can put to use if you feel you have enough control over your mind. And no, it’s not just for men to try so that they can last longer in bed. You can pause, go to zero and then rebuild or you could distract yourself away from the orgasm, shifting the focus, before starting again.
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4. Go For A Blended Orgasm
If you can handle two, three, or even four times the intensity and pleasure of a regular O, this kind of orgasm is for you. A blended orgasm is a climax that happens when more than one erogenous zone is being stimulated at the same time. Penetration along with clitoral touching is one way to experience the explosive orgasm that typically results. But it could also come from vaginal penetration along with clitoral, or anal stimulation—or all of these simultaneously. Many combinations of touching and teasing can trigger a blended orgasm.
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5. Use Everyday Objects
Whether by accident or out of sheer brilliance, women have turned quite a few everyday things into sex toys for self-pleasure. You can try a shower head, hairbrush, pillow, electric toothbrush, spoon and so many more items. There are several options you can use to masturbate and achieve the big O. If you decide to have sex with one or a few of these items, it’s vital you are cautious. Make sure they’re thoroughly cleaned with soap and water prior to getting it on.
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6. Schedule It In
Practice really does make perfect. Not just sex, but regular masturbation has a ton of benefits for your health and your relationship with self. Switch it up during breaks, add it to your calendar and just go for it. The OTT series can wait and so can the laundry. Making time for masturbation consistently will help you explore your body, what it needs, what makes you happy and what gives you the biggest orgasm.
7. Give Yourself Some Foreplay
The teasing, sensual touches, seductive practises aren’t meant just for your partner. Women generally take longer than their counterparts to become aroused, yet they’re quick to forego any type of foreplay when they are pleasuring themselves. Maybe you enjoy reading erotica, or perhaps porn’s your thing. Or dressing up and taking an appreciative look in the mirror turns you on. Whatever you enjoy most, do that and get your mind into the game.
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8. Go Exploring
Getting straight to business means missing out on the view and adventures. Your clitoris isn’t the only area that can bring you pleasure. Your labia has feel-good nerve endings, try gently stroking and massaging both the labia majora (larger outer fold) and minora (smaller inner folds). The majority of the clitoris is internal, and this type of touch will indirectly stimulate the clit. Just take a body road trip and explore!
9. Mutual Masturbation
There’s something so primal and delicious about revealing your masturbation style to your lover. And mutual masturbation can produce intense orgasms! One of the perks of mutual masturbation is that you can touch each other. Although, you can certainly have fun with no-touching rules too.
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10. Add Some Rhythm
Most people have a tendency to default to the same rhythm every time they masturbate. But there are huge benefits to mixing it up. Experiment with rhythm and the exact same motion can feel very different. Try doing circular motions instead of rubbing up and down or tab your body in intervals instead of continuous touch. You can also slow down the particular rhythm in the buildup to prolong and extend the orgasm. And one way to train yourself is to pick a different sexy song each time.
These are a few ideas to make your time masturbating more exciting. Find what works for you, practise a little (or a lot), get creative and remember, the journey is as fun as the destination!